Being the host and “pledge master” of the evening, I was encouraged to command the men. Being able to engage with the other men digitally is a goddamn treat. I knew FRAT was going to be arousing, but God, it was so much better than watching even the best porn. Daniel is quarantined with one of his partners, and they had some serious sex on screen. Before I knew it, there were seven or eight of us getting naked, masturbating, and using a wide array of sex toys from Fleshlights to dildos to prostate massagers. All it took was one guy (and I got naked with him, too) to get the party started. Then it was like Pringles: Once you pop, the fun don’t stop. I'd ask them to flash the group or take off their pants. But a few truths in, the guys wanted to be dared, and that’s when dicks and booty started coming out. Like every time someone plays the game, the guys coyly started with truth, and I asked questions about some of the sexy things they’d been doing in quarantine. I began playing Truth or Dare with some of the guys on screen. I think everyone was aware it takes a little bit of time to set the mood and get these things started (just like at an IRL sex party). There were some freezes and people were talking over each other. Was the beginning of the party slightly awkward? Yes, but that's to be expected. People who wanted to get on screen would ask on the chat, and Daniel would switch them in with someone else who’d had plenty of screen time. While the video conferencing site NSFW used only allowed four people to be on screen at once, the chat section was very active. The night started with Daniel and me welcoming everyone to FRAT. And while he said it was good to check in with the attendees and see how everyone is feeling, he wanted me to steer clear of depressing COVID-19 talk. Before the start of the party, Daniel Saynt, founder and "chief conspirator" of NSFW, told me I could play some Truth or Dare questions. Then I put on a leather harness and black jockstrap. That evening I shaved a handlebar mustache into my face-really going for a classic '80s porn star/Tom of Finland aesthetic. They want to see (and participate) in the action. After all, people are paying to attend this virtual sex party. But, okay, h ow? When? Too soon and I scare people off, but too late isn't ideal either. So I figured I'd be one of the first to whip out my dick or encourage others who are a little nervous to get on cam to show off. I knew it would involve what’s known as fire starting (those who are the first to get naked and bone at a sex party).
I wasn’t exactly sure what a virtual sex party host does. Still, I was pretty nervous to host FRAT, New Society For Wellness’ (NSFW) sex party exclusive to people who identify as male. Virtual sex settings are by far the most responsible way to get sexual pleasure right now, and by God, I need some release.
But now my mentality has just been screw it.